Helpful Tips
Tip #1
If you are in a relationship where you are being
verbally, emotionally, physically, or sexually abused…
+ Remember that the abuse is not your fault
+ Call a relationship violence hotline
+ Talk to a counselor
+ Make a safety plan
+ Keep a support network of friends and family that you can talk to about the abuse.
+ Document the abuse
Tip #2
If you are having a problem controlling your abusive behavior…
+ Take responsibility for that behavior
+ Know that you do not have to continue behaving this way
+ Call a hotline for more information about the batterer’s intervention
+ Join a batterer’s support group. Anger management is not enough.
Tip #3
If you have a friend who is being abused…
+ Listen to your friend without judging
+ Help your friend recognize that what’s happening is not healthy
+ Encourage your friend’s strength and courage
+ If your friend is able to end the abusive relationship, continue to be supportive of them once they are alone.
Tip #4
If you have a friend who is abusive…
+ Help your friend focus on how their behavior make other people feel
+ Talk to your friend about the serious effects of abuse for both the victim and the perpetrator
+ Make it clear to your friend that they alone are responsible for their behavior